True romance is when the husband makes an effort to keep the marriage alive, thinks about ways to please his wife, and genuinely strives to make her feel loved and appreciated. Unfortunately, after the honeymoon phase, romance loses its appeal for most men, and in fact becomes awkward and even unnatural! But Alhamdulillah, it is not difficult, and with the correct intention and mindset, romance can easily be re-Iearnt.
There are many ways a man can show romance. Let us get started by mentioning two types of romance
1. Spontaneous Romance: These are little acts that the husband does to show affection without being prompted. The key concept here is to be spontaneous. The element of surprise is crucial! It is not what you do that is as important as simply doing something personal. This could include sending her a message saying" I love you" via text, email, or a little sticky note placed in a convenient place. Other examples include buying he ran unexpected gift, or giving her a tight hug or a passionate kiss when she least expects it. These acts keep the marriage alive, as it injects excitement and heat into .the relationship. This spontaneity helps melts away any resentment that inevitably builds up.
2. Responsive Romance: These are acts that the husband does in response to a situation at hand. They are done when a husband finds his wife emotionally or physically down. For example, ordering food from outside if her day was hectic; giving her a massage if her back is sore; or simply sitting down with her and listening to her if she is upset about an incident that happened. These acts show genuine care. And strengthen and deepen the marital bond. The fact of the matter is that many men are scared by the word romance; they feel that it is beyond them. Yet true romance is nothing more or less than appreciating a woman for who she is, looking after her. and caring for her. Remember the beautiful hadith in which our beloved Prophet (salallahu alayhi wa salam) compared women to ... fragile vessels,and reminded us to be gentle with them (Reported by al-Bukhari).
Emotionally, women are different than men. and protecting these fragile vessels in every way possible is the best (and most natural) job men can do. Men typically find romantic gestures a bit awkward. Men assume that anything they do will be considered cliched and insincere. They thlnk too deeply about the intellectual ramifications of showing such a gesture and forget that it really is the thought that counts!
This article was culled from the publications of Deen Communication Limited