1-When someone transgresses upon your rights (and in doing so disobeys Allah) the way to 'revenge' is to obey Allah in dealing with him, (use reason/rules instead of anger). Allaah says:
"Show forgiveness, enjoying what is good, and turn away from the foolish (i.e. don't punish them)." (Q7[A'raf]:199).
2- When something comes to you from your brother, accept it as something good, unless you have overwhelming evidence against it. (husn dhann- thinking good of people).
Allaah says:
"0 you who believe! Avoid much suspicions, indeed some suspicions are sins. And spy not, neither backbite one another. Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his dead brother? You would hate it (so hate backbiting). And fear Allah. Verily Allah is the One Who accepts repentance, Most Merciful." (Q49[Hujuraat: 12).
3-Don't take the word of a Muslim as ill. When there is a way of seeing it positively, take it that way. Find one good interpretation out of 10.
Allaah's Messenger (salallahu alayhi wa sallam) said:
"Do not hate one another nor be jealous of one another: and do not desert one another, but be Allah's worshipers! Be Brothers! And it is unlawful for a Muslim to desert his brother Muslim (and not to talk to him) for more than three nights." (Bukhari) .
4-Avoid positions that will make others doubt you (i.e disobey Allah publicly, hang out with people who don't care, at all time and places).
Safiya bint Huyai (RA), one of the wives of the Prophet (salallahu alayhi wa sallam) narrated that she went to Allaah's Messenger (salallahu alayhi wa sallam) while he was in Itikaf (staying in the mosque) during the last ten nights of the month of Ramadan. She spoke to him for an hour (awhile) at night and then she got up to return home.
The Prophet got up to accompany her, and when they reached the gate of the mosque opposite the dwelling place of Urn Salama, the wife of the Prophet, two Ansari men passed by, and greeting Allah's Apostle , they quickly went ahead. Allah's Apostle said to them, "Do not be in a hurry she is Safiya, the daughter of Huyai." They said, "Subhan Allah! O Allah's Apostle (how dare we suspect you)." That was a great thing for both of them. The Prophet (salallahu alayhi wa sallam) then said.
"Satan runs in the body of Adam's son (i.e. man) as his blood circulates in it, and I was afraid that he (Satan) might insert an evil thought in your hearts." (Bukhari).
5-Do not blame others. When you have a secret, its under your control, but when you tell someone else, that control is not yours anymore. People fall under different factors and pressures, so do not blame others.
It is reported from Hudhaifa that news reached him (the Prophet) that a certain man carried tales.
Upon this Hudhaifa remarked: I heard Allah's Messenger (salallahu alayhi wa sallam) saying:"The tale-bearer shall not enter Paradise." (Muslim).
This article was culled from the publications of Deen Communication Limited